Valentines day is always so centred on couples expressing their loves for one and other, and while I’m all for that, I also think we should all express some self love this valentines day (ooer! Not like that you dirtys).
It’s difficult and I’m still working hard at it, but learning to love myself is something I’m paying attention to a lot this year, so I thought I’d share a bit about what I’ve learned so far so you too can be your own valentine:
• Take some me time.
Valentines day is a brilliant time to do this. Whether that be to pamper yourself for a big date, or if your a singleton like me, pamper yourself for a nice evening of Netflix and take away, it’s a great excuse. Not everyone has the time to spend hours soaking, scrubbing and spoiling oneself every week, but today, you have a brilliant excuse.
• Thank your body. It’s easy to pick at the pieces of yourself that you don’t like. It’s not easy to push them aside and list all the things you do, but believe me, it helps. I find it helpful to thank my body for functioning every single day without me even thinking about it. My body moves and breaths without me ever consciously telling it to, yet I still pick at it for being fat or ugly- how is that fair? It’s not, so now I don’t. You have one body, no matter what, so give it it’s dues.
• Learn to appreciate your own company. I’m not going to lie, this one was pretty easy for me. I quite like being alone, but it is easy to slip into a circle of self doubt and hate when there is no one there to stop you. This is the time you should appreciate yourself for all of your quirks and traits, you don’t need someone there to validate you. You validate you.
• Respect your mind and body. I’ve found that since I’ve started using food as fuel rather than emotional stabilisers, my body has been much happier. I know that sounds strange, but your body is a machine and if you fill it full of rubbish, it can’t work to its full potential. The same goes for your mind. This kind of relates to ‘Banish the negative thoughts’, if you block those demons, figuratively or literally, they can’t poison your mind or body. It’s okay to be nice to you.
• Praise yourself. It’s good to be proud of yourself. I know when I do something I think is great, I feel way too big headed if I tell people, but that’s not cool. If your proud of something, shout it from the roof tops! If people think your big headed, let them, who cares? Not you, you’re too busy knowing how good of a job you’ve done.
• Fake it until you make it. It’s hard and you feel a little bit silly, and you won’t instantly believe it when you first start telling yourself you’re worthy of love and beauty- It takes time. But when you’re feeling horrible and you can’t quite take all the compliments you’re giving yourself, sometimes pretending you believe it helps. It gets to the point where you’ve faked it so much that you trick yourself into believing it for real. I’ve found this comes in handy when it comes to taking compliments, just accepting them and saying thank you is a lot easier than shooting people down when you believe you’re worth it, or are even pretending to believe.